About Danielle ...
Why I am Different...
I Understand Both Personally and Professionally
I'm not just another professional who read about betrayal trauma in a textbook. I was actually led into this work professionally before finding that I would be needing recovery for myself, after learning the term “betrayal trauma” and identifying those symptoms that explained what I had gone through for many years, yet thinking I was “crazy”!
My clients often tell me that since I am still married to my husband and he is in long-term sobriety, that this gives them hope. This is just my story that it "can" be done..
However, I would never (ever!) advise my clients to stay or go-
I do understand the complexity of these decisions from both personal and professional experience.
APSATS-Trained & Certified
I follow the APSATS Partner-Sensitive & Trauma-Sensitive Model - the gold standard for betrayal trauma recovery.
This means:
- Your trauma is validated and treated appropriately
- You won't be blamed for your partner's choices
- We focus on YOUR healing first
- No pressure to make marriage decisions before you're ready
Biblical Foundation Without Religious Pressure
My approach is rooted in Scripture, particularly Matthew 22:36-39 - loving God, yourself, and others well.
But I won't give you platitudes or quick fixes.
We'll address the lies you may have been told about being a "good Christian wife" and discover what Biblical love actually looks like.
Addiction Expertise
As someone in long-term sobriety myself, I understand addiction from both sides. This personal and professional experience helps me guide you through the complexities of loving someone with addictive behaviors while protecting your own heart and sanity.
What I DON'T Do
- I don't tell you whether to stay married or get divorced
- I don't give advice - I help you find YOUR answers
- I don't minimize your pain with spiritual bypassing
- I don't rush you into forgiveness or reconciliation
What I DO Do
- Provide Biblical truth about betrayal (it's NOT your fault)
- Guide you to clarity about your values, needs, and boundaries
- Support you whether you're working on individual healing or considering couples work
- Use proven methods like Brainspotting to access healing beyond what talking alone can provide
Couples or Relationship Coaching - NON BETRAYAL SPECIFIC
The latest statistic in the USA of divorce rate was around 40-50% (2022). It is safe to say that most couples are/were not prepared for marriage and the stressors that relationships bring.
From a Biblical perspective, we know that the enemy has been stealing, killing, and destroying since Genesis.
The breakdown of the family system and relationships are clear throughout history.
As a Relationship Coach, I use the Prepare-Enrich Material to give an assessment at the start of Coaching to get a clear picture of the strengths & weaknesses.
Having facilitated for New Life Ministries since 2017, I have learned under Milan & Kay Yerkovich, Authors of How We Love, a book and program on Core Attachment Patterns.
I have worked with dozens of couples using this material, as well as other tools of relationships to help bring about understanding, empathy, improving boundaries, and communication.
I work with pre-marital relationships, as well as couples who have been married for decades.
If you are interested in a consultation to see if I am a good fit for you, please reach out!
A Christians Girl's Guide to Healing Betrayal
If you are walking through betrayal, I would be honored to have at least a small part in our journey!
Download this workbook to get some prompts to help get you focused on our needs that honor your pain and your faith!
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