If you are a Christian woman seeking help in your relationship with Food, Yourself, God, or With Others- YOU ARE IN THE RIGHT PLACE!
We are born into a world where relationships are a part of life, and yet, they are often difficult, painful at times, and most of us have not been taught how to have healthy relationships... we are just doing the best we can, but we often get stuck.
And all of us have been mistreated & misunderstood at some point or another, and the effects of those experiences can be long lasting. If not dealt with, those experiences create a pattern of reactivity in which we keep doing the same thing, over and over, frustrated, because we expect different results.
These experiences usually leave us with maladaptive belief systems that block a healthy relationship with God, Self, or Others.
We generally blame ourselves, affecting our relationship with self
Blame God, affecting our relationship with Him.
Blame others, creating a long string of broken or unhealthy relationships..
And MANY women that I work with, turn to food, or alcohol to soothe, numb, to meet the emptiness that the relationships are NOT filling.
Sister, You are NOT ALONE!
Maybe you experienced trauma, betrayal, & rejection and though you just knew this would never happen to us- It did. Shattered hopes and dreams crash to the ground.
We believe the lies of the enemy,
"You are not loveable",
"You are not worth it",
"You are not good enough"..
And after believing those lies for so long, we don't even know they are lies, it feels so true...
As Christians we read the Bible wanting so desperately to believe in our hearts what we hear about God, that we are
Loved. Chosen. Valued.
But instead, we feel empty.
We anesthetize the pain with overworking, over-achieving, People -Pleasing, scrolling, shopping, eating, or getting lost in romance novels.
We all have a "drug of choice" if we are feeling the emptiness that God wants to fill..
Because, if we do not fill up on the love of God, knowing our Identity and Value in Him, expressed in healthy relationships,
We will do something, to fill that hole in our soul- we may even make idols out of relationships, titles, the roles we play.
We go to church or work, serve, give, play all the parts, and yet we feel like an imposter along the way...
If this is you, I see you, & I know that pain.
By the grace of God, I found my way into recovery early in life, & have had to learn who was , fight shame by fighting lies with truth, unlearn many things, grieve my many losses, & to develop new ways of thinking, feeling, and doing things.
It has been the most challenging & beneficial work of my life, and just when I think I have it figured out, there's a new challenge & new lesson!
I have been playing Whack-A-Mole since I was a teenager with compulsive behaviors to deal with that emptiness, overcoming trauma, pride, betrayal, substances, and many other things.
However, the gift of recovery, achieved only by the gift of desperation, and the power of 12 step recovery, and the movement of God in those meetings, and the people I have found along the way, I am a breathing, walking, talking, testimony that
WE CAN & DO RECOVER!
I have specialized training and experience to help with struggles with God (Faith Issues), Self (Body Image Issues, Self-Esteem, Compulsive Behaviors, Grief/loss, Recovering from Co-dependency, etc.), &/or Others (Betrayal/Infidelity, Family Conflict, Boundary Work, & Forgiveness)
I have training in Brainspotting which is an amazing technique which helps us to gain insight into what is occurring inside that may be contributing to day-to-day struggles! I can do Brainspotting with individuals, as well as with couples!
You may find yourself in a relationship that you aren't being treated well, have been deceived, betrayed, or you aren't sure what you want or need. And, while I do not advise on what to do or what is best, I do provide skillful guided questions, scripture, and homework to help YOU find where God is leading you in those decisions & changes you need to make to get the healthy relationship you desire.
If you are one of the dozens of women that I have coached who are battling overeating, body-image issues, or finding balance with self care & responsibilities, seeking to find the key that unlocks what has kept you from self-control, consistency, and the goals that you set for yourself.
I can help you!
And no, it is NOT the next diet plan (Though I do have tools and options to share!)...
It is doing deeper work to get to core belief systems, relationships, and shutting down the shame monsters that are attacking you! I can work with you individually or in a group setting with other women who can help you find that missing piece to your struggles!
If you are struggling in your relationship with God-
You are not alone.
I have coached many women who are angry with God for the ways in which life has turned out. Many have questioned
"Haven't you taken enough from me",
or "Where are you"!
There is NO shame if you find yourself in this place with your faith. And if you would like to work through some of these questions, I am here to help!
My role as a Holistic Coach is to partner with you to help you grow in healthy connection with God- Self- Others in a skillful way that is compassionate, rooted in God's Truth, & effective to get you the results you seek ...